tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352718524063385277.post6290020758898221017..comments2023-10-25T02:20:32.475-07:00Comments on A Tale of Two Kiddies: Apron StringsTonihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11122493201161475552noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352718524063385277.post-53817048381435707862008-02-27T06:22:00.000-08:002008-02-27T06:22:00.000-08:00Hi Toni:I am sorry you are suffering through this....Hi Toni:<BR/><BR/>I am sorry you are suffering through this. I think a lot of family relationships are hard, but they can ALWAYS improve.<BR/><BR/>I pray that your Mom will realize how precious you and your children are, and start treating you better, as you deserve.<BR/><BR/>I can identify with this, truly, as my 2 older brothers (twins) were ALWAYS the favorites, and I the black sheep. From this I believe I learned to treat my own children better, and not to play favorites. It causes much hurt.<BR/><BR/>I am sending lots of love your way.<BR/><BR/>Linda xoxoxoBradley's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10886790409975435111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352718524063385277.post-54233370536626565262008-02-26T23:55:00.000-08:002008-02-26T23:55:00.000-08:00toni - i feel for you. families can really suck s...toni - i feel for you. families can really suck sometimes. mothers and daughters can be so difficult. i hope things improve.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352718524063385277.post-39656459690909308902008-02-26T20:08:00.000-08:002008-02-26T20:08:00.000-08:00Does your mom read your blog? Just curious...Glad...Does your mom read your blog? Just curious...<BR/><BR/>Glad that my mom never says these things to me :)<BR/><BR/><BR/>Bradley<BR/>The Egel NestThe Egel Nesthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11475452898579351376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352718524063385277.post-14015694188181494062008-02-26T17:29:00.000-08:002008-02-26T17:29:00.000-08:00That is totally brutal. I completely understand w...That is totally brutal. I completely understand where you are coming from. <BR/><BR/><BR/>The whole mom/daughter thing is sooo complex, even under the best of circumstances. big hug, and hang in there.Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14599462281364463565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352718524063385277.post-25252970888335024072008-02-26T16:47:00.000-08:002008-02-26T16:47:00.000-08:00oh honey...i'm so sorry that you are so unhappy an...oh honey...i'm so sorry that you are so unhappy and angry!! it's very frustrating...and, i totally feel for you!!<BR/>i'm sending gigantic hugs...<BR/>xoxosuchsimplepleasureshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17614929528400567339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352718524063385277.post-3233821388932301502008-02-26T15:34:00.000-08:002008-02-26T15:34:00.000-08:00Oh, T, that is not fair to get bad in-laws and par...Oh, T, that is not fair to get bad in-laws and parents who do favorites. I totally feel for you. Your mother should not be allowed to say such things to you. It's wrong. My in-laws did the favorite thing, and it's one of the reasons my hubby one wants one child. I'm so sorry, diva. I love you. I wish you were near me...I'm not afraid of her. My Italian realitives have a red phone to Sicily. I got connections....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352718524063385277.post-61125208842346430052008-02-26T14:42:00.000-08:002008-02-26T14:42:00.000-08:00Well Toni, family is a complicated thing. I/my bro...Well Toni, family is a complicated thing. I/my bro and sis were the least favorite of the grandchildren...Let me tell you, we knew it. My Sis is out of the picture (her choice), so my babies are really the only grandkids now. I am lucky that I have a great Mom...I had sucky grandparents...It's tough.Cynthiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00625673916138703709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352718524063385277.post-69427420906487793412008-02-26T13:48:00.000-08:002008-02-26T13:48:00.000-08:00I was never the favorite child either. Somewhere ...I was never the favorite child either. Somewhere along the way I reconciled that and went on with my life. You will too! You are still young and it all hurts and it is real pain, but one day you will reconcile the anger and hurt feelings and jealousy - you will. I hope it is soon and you find peace. It is not easy. What I learned is that - you can not change people and you can not make people be the way you want them to be - NO MATTER WHAT! You either accept the situation or the person - or you don't. Once you accept it - things start to change - it's strange. It's a matter of letting go of some things and then things start to sort of reallign. I wish your relationship with your mother was easier - better - with regard to these things. I hope you find a balance soon and find peace about these things. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers Toni, I know it hurts. Take care - KellanKellanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07882991320065439298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352718524063385277.post-8119215996087323052008-02-26T11:44:00.000-08:002008-02-26T11:44:00.000-08:00Dude. May I suggest a little retail therapy? I w...Dude. May I suggest a little retail therapy? I wish I still lived in OH. I swear I would come pick you up and take you out for lunch.<BR/><BR/>"Feeling sorry for yourself today?" would drive me from crazy mad to batshit insane in 2.1 seconds or less. <BR/><BR/>My IL's have a daughter that still lives with them and it resignates many of the same feelings. Hang in there - you know you are much better off.<BR/><BR/>So, when can I pick you up for lunch?MamaGeek @ Works For Ushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09563543041234527282noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352718524063385277.post-36629557926581788682008-02-26T11:13:00.000-08:002008-02-26T11:13:00.000-08:00Toni, I wouldn't necessarily agree with you that y...Toni, I wouldn't necessarily agree with you that you 'need therapy'. I think it's natural to carry around some baggage from our past--I know I do. It's awful that your Mum chose to pick favourites. I also think it was rude of her to show up 20 minutes late and then twist it to make you feel bad.<BR/><BR/>I know wholeheartedly that blogs are cathartic at times and it helps to get those thoughts out, organised and down somewhere.<BR/><BR/>Although you obviously love your mother, I can feel the pain in your words. Not only is she hurting herself by distancing herself from you, but she's hurting your children too.<BR/><BR/>I wish only the best for you (((((((hugs)))))))Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352718524063385277.post-6909808102607059132008-02-26T06:27:00.000-08:002008-02-26T06:27:00.000-08:00Oh, Toni, I'm so so sorry. That was a heart wrenc...Oh, Toni, I'm so so sorry. That was a heart wrenching post. <BR/>Mother/daughter relationships are complicated. I hope things get better!Life As I Know Ithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09492465378321819342noreply@blogger.com